In my job I have to rely on other's for help as teamwork is the key to success. Well I have come to realize that teamwork is not viewed the same. I recall that coaches yelling during PE when I was in school. "you have to work as a team, or you'll fail. There is no I in team." and I took this to heart, putting my all in the group activities and functions often sacrificing my self for the team. Then I learned after several times being thrown under the bus, that CYA is part of the teamwork that I wasn't told about.
Now when your rearing your children, you want them to learn to work well together. From setting up play dates, watching them play, forcing them to share their things, and helping them understand the importance of following through on their group projects. But we don't teach them to CYA. Why? I have determined that because we want our children to believe that people are naturally good and would not do things to harm them when they agree to help them complete a project. But what we fail to realize that what we are doing is handicapping our children and allowing them to be taken advantage of.
Is it wrong for individuals to protect themselves from potential career harm? How would you teach your children to CYA?
